The phrase 'help meet' has been a phrase that has really had me frustrated, confused, excited that I can be a housewife and still have a 'title'. For so many years I have thought about what it means and what it looks like. And I think I might have finally gotten it--
THERE IS NO 'COOKIE CUTTER' HELP MEET!!!!
Can you believe it??? There is no cookie cutter help meet. All of these years I have read, looked, asked, and searched for the cookie cutter equation on how to be a help meet....and all along it has been right here in front of me.
Let's look at what I mean:
Help meet:
by definition:
Help: (first it is a verb-an action verb at that) to give assistance
or support to, to make more pleasant or bearable
Meet: precisely adapted to a particular situation, need, or circumstance
When you combine those two words and their
meanings..it takes on a whole new meaning and how-to use.
But...I keep going back to the very same question that I started with 11 years ago--
What does a help meet look like?
And I don't mean - what is she wearing, but rather what does an example, of a help meet, look like.
What does a help meet act like?
How does she respond to her husband?
How doesn't she respond to her husband?
How does she respond to her children?
How doesn't she respond to her children?
How does she dress? (now we are talking appearance)
How doesn't she dress?
(ok...so my English is not great in some of these questions)
And all of these questions can be answered with one easy 'question' you can ask yourself:
What can I do to 'help meet' the needs of my husband?
I have prayed for years to understand what being a help meet really means, meant,
looks like, etc and all along it has been right
here in front of me...what can I do to help meet the needs of my husband??
Now, please notice that I did not say how can I
help meet the needs of my children. So maybe you're asking
(and maybe you're not) why?? My children's needs include living in a
home that is filled with love, joy, peace and honesty and obviously food and shelter
....and when they live
in a home where momma fulfills her job of "meeting daddy's needs"
and daddy fulfills his job of "providing, protecting, and 'managing his home'"
then there is no room for confusion, rebellion, or hatred.
And the physical needs of food shelter are also taken care of at that point too...
daddy's out working - to provide food and shelter
and supply protection - a home.
Hence, why their needs are met when momma and daddy fulfill their roles.
As simple as it seems and yet so unimportant anymore.
I am always reminded of the vows my husband and I took when
we got married (16 years ago) :
I, Carrie, take thee, Chon,
to be my lawfully wedded husband
for better, for worse,
in sickness and in health, in joys and in sorrows, until death do
we part. I give you all that I have myself and my love.
(All these things I pledge to thee) In the Name
of our Lord Jesus Christ.
With this ring I seal my vow of love to you, Chon.
I stood there almost 16 years ago pledging to be his
help meet and I finally get it!!!
Everyday my goal is give my schedule, my plans, my energy to God so
that with his help I can meet everyone of Chon's needs to make
him more successful in God's eyes.
Gen 2:18
And the Lord God said,
It is not good for man to be alone,
I wil make him a help meet for him (him being Adam).
Interesting the words used....
THERE IS NO 'COOKIE CUTTER' HELP MEET!!!!
Can you believe it??? There is no cookie cutter help meet. All of these years I have read, looked, asked, and searched for the cookie cutter equation on how to be a help meet....and all along it has been right here in front of me.
Let's look at what I mean:
Help meet:
by definition:
Help: (first it is a verb-an action verb at that) to give assistance
or support to, to make more pleasant or bearable
Meet: precisely adapted to a particular situation, need, or circumstance
When you combine those two words and their
meanings..it takes on a whole new meaning and how-to use.
But...I keep going back to the very same question that I started with 11 years ago--
What does a help meet look like?
And I don't mean - what is she wearing, but rather what does an example, of a help meet, look like.
What does a help meet act like?
How does she respond to her husband?
How doesn't she respond to her husband?
How does she respond to her children?
How doesn't she respond to her children?
How does she dress? (now we are talking appearance)
How doesn't she dress?
(ok...so my English is not great in some of these questions)
And all of these questions can be answered with one easy 'question' you can ask yourself:
What can I do to 'help meet' the needs of my husband?
I have prayed for years to understand what being a help meet really means, meant,
looks like, etc and all along it has been right
here in front of me...what can I do to help meet the needs of my husband??
Now, please notice that I did not say how can I
help meet the needs of my children. So maybe you're asking
(and maybe you're not) why?? My children's needs include living in a
home that is filled with love, joy, peace and honesty and obviously food and shelter
....and when they live
in a home where momma fulfills her job of "meeting daddy's needs"
and daddy fulfills his job of "providing, protecting, and 'managing his home'"
then there is no room for confusion, rebellion, or hatred.
And the physical needs of food shelter are also taken care of at that point too...
daddy's out working - to provide food and shelter
and supply protection - a home.
Hence, why their needs are met when momma and daddy fulfill their roles.
As simple as it seems and yet so unimportant anymore.
I am always reminded of the vows my husband and I took when
we got married (16 years ago) :
I, Carrie, take thee, Chon,
to be my lawfully wedded husband
for better, for worse,
in sickness and in health, in joys and in sorrows, until death do
we part. I give you all that I have myself and my love.
(All these things I pledge to thee) In the Name
of our Lord Jesus Christ.
With this ring I seal my vow of love to you, Chon.
help meet and I finally get it!!!
Everyday my goal is give my schedule, my plans, my energy to God so
that with his help I can meet everyone of Chon's needs to make
him more successful in God's eyes.
Gen 2:18
And the Lord God said,
It is not good for man to be alone,
I wil make him a help meet for him (him being Adam).
Interesting the words used....
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