Our lifestyle is beyond the description of unpredictable...
How am I handling it???
How am I handling it???
I'M NOT!!!
I don't even know how to adjust to it.
I have, since having my kids, become so rigid with planning and scheduling...
so I will admit that I definitely had rom in
so I will admit that I definitely had rom in
my life for being more unpredictable, but REALLY????
I decided today that I am going to, at some point, write a book to help other
RRing wives, but....
what do you write??
how do you write 'help' for RRers??
where do you start??
So here is where I am starting:
1. Accept my husband at face value.
2. Realize that what 'God puts together - let no man put asunder' is
God's plan for your marriage.
3. Trust.
4. Respect: given - not earned.
5. Respect has been distorted by media, society, and our ignorances.
6. Be grateful for his full effort of providing.
7. Be frugal.
8. Quality relationships are INTENTIONAL.
9. Romance is HIGHLY overrated.
10. Intimacy comes in many different shapes, sizes, and colors.
11. Real agape love is not self-seeking, selfish...
12. (I left the most important aspect of surviving the RRing life)
God as your central anchor.
I will not pretend that I didn't buy into the brainwashing idea of what 'adult life'
would be like. Or should I say married life??
I was told all my life that Cinderella meets her prince charming and lives happily ever after. I know...who believes that - right?? Well...many of us women do. Deliberately or not...we expect a part of
that 'fairy tale' lifestyle to some extent or another.
Living the life of a RRer's wife is not going to meet the 'fairy tale' idea,
but here is what will meet:
1. Stability.
2. A job that has excellent retirement and benefits.
It is all about perspective.
If you are a RRing wife needing someone to help you thru why you can't even plan tomorrow with your husband...what about the wife who is nursing her husband thru cancer wondering if tonight will be the last night she will snuggle her husband.
If you are a RRing wife needing someone to 'fill in the gap of meeting your needs'...what about the wife who stares at the picture of her deceased serviceman who gave his life for 'her' country knowing that he is never coming home and can't stomach the thought of turning to anyone else to do so.
If you are a RRing wife that has to tell your little Jane or little Bobby no to that pair of tennis shoes that he or she wants...what about the father that has to face his children that are hungry, dirty and homeless after he lost his job, dignity, self-esteem and sense of worth or value.
If you are a RRing wife (or mom) that does not know how to explain to little Jane or Little Bobby why daddy couldn't be at their game tonight....what about the mom who explains to her little Jane or Bobby why their daddy is overseas fighting for our freedom and that is why he is not able to be at his or her game.
We, as RRing wives, may not have our husbands home every night to 'meet our needs' or to play with our children, but we do have one thing our husbands working close to home with a confidence that he will be home safe and sound, God willing, following that next train ride.
It is all about perspective.
Romans 12:2
And be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect.
I decided today that I am going to, at some point, write a book to help other
RRing wives, but....
what do you write??
how do you write 'help' for RRers??
where do you start??
So here is where I am starting:
1. Accept my husband at face value.
2. Realize that what 'God puts together - let no man put asunder' is
God's plan for your marriage.
3. Trust.
4. Respect: given - not earned.
5. Respect has been distorted by media, society, and our ignorances.
6. Be grateful for his full effort of providing.
7. Be frugal.
8. Quality relationships are INTENTIONAL.
9. Romance is HIGHLY overrated.
10. Intimacy comes in many different shapes, sizes, and colors.
11. Real agape love is not self-seeking, selfish...
12. (I left the most important aspect of surviving the RRing life)
God as your central anchor.
I will not pretend that I didn't buy into the brainwashing idea of what 'adult life'
would be like. Or should I say married life??
I was told all my life that Cinderella meets her prince charming and lives happily ever after. I know...who believes that - right?? Well...many of us women do. Deliberately or not...we expect a part of
that 'fairy tale' lifestyle to some extent or another.
Living the life of a RRer's wife is not going to meet the 'fairy tale' idea,
but here is what will meet:
1. Stability.
2. A job that has excellent retirement and benefits.
It is all about perspective.
If you are a RRing wife needing someone to help you thru why you can't even plan tomorrow with your husband...what about the wife who is nursing her husband thru cancer wondering if tonight will be the last night she will snuggle her husband.
If you are a RRing wife needing someone to 'fill in the gap of meeting your needs'...what about the wife who stares at the picture of her deceased serviceman who gave his life for 'her' country knowing that he is never coming home and can't stomach the thought of turning to anyone else to do so.
If you are a RRing wife that has to tell your little Jane or little Bobby no to that pair of tennis shoes that he or she wants...what about the father that has to face his children that are hungry, dirty and homeless after he lost his job, dignity, self-esteem and sense of worth or value.
If you are a RRing wife (or mom) that does not know how to explain to little Jane or Little Bobby why daddy couldn't be at their game tonight....what about the mom who explains to her little Jane or Bobby why their daddy is overseas fighting for our freedom and that is why he is not able to be at his or her game.
We, as RRing wives, may not have our husbands home every night to 'meet our needs' or to play with our children, but we do have one thing our husbands working close to home with a confidence that he will be home safe and sound, God willing, following that next train ride.
It is all about perspective.
Romans 12:2
And be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect.
