If I am capable to caring for my own basic needs
(ie. housing, food, water, etc),
what can I expect from my relationships?
Nothing.
I know you are probably like I should expect nothing from my husband,
nothing from my parents, my children, my siblings.
you
Correct.
The key to why I say nothing is the word expectations.
You see expectations are a funny thing.
I heard once that
"Expectations kills relationships."
When I heard this statement it made me pause.
It made me pause, because I had place unrealistic expectations on
the relationships around me.
Unrealistic expectations are stemmed from selfishness,
and selfishness does not belong in a relationship.
With anyone!!!
The original question
(If I am capable to caring for my own basic needs
(ie. housing, food, water, etc),
what can I expect from my relationships?)
already eludes to the fact that I have unrealistic expectations:If I am capable.... then you are capable.
This is assuming that you are capable whether you are or not.
Willing or not.
Trustworthy or not.
I have to remind myself it's not what I can get from you
in our relationship,
it's what i can give.
