How many hats does a person wear in a day??
How many of those hats are worn in perfection??
How do you decide if you are doing a good job wearing that hat??
How many of those hats do you justify to make the hat fit perfectly??
What happens when you find out that the a specific hat does not fit??
How do you respond when someone tells you that that specific hat does not look good on you?
Or that you are wearing it incorrectly??
Or not wearing for the right reasons??
As a wife and mom I wear many hats:
** wife and mom - obviously
** encourager
**cheerleader - yes, I am the one on the
sidelines yelling REALLY loud = just ask my kids
** advocate
** defender
** guidance counselor
** teacher
** nurse
** the one to bounce idea off of
** disciplinarian - also known as the 'bad guy' at our house
** "military mom' as known by some
Now, let me start off, after that wonderful list, by saying that
I DO NOT DO ANY OF THESE JOBS PERFECTLY!!!
However, I do take each of those jobs VERY SERIOUSLY!!!
Serious enough that if I ever stop learning what the REAL definition
of any one of these mean or look like
I will be being laid to rest, and enjoying eternity-God willing.
So where does the REAL definition come from??
Vogue magazine (geared for woman of today)? Nah...don't think so.
I know!! How about Wikipedia?? Nah...not there either.
When I go looking for what anyone of those hats, and
many more that are not on that particular list looks like...
I consult who God says I am wearing that hat.
Pro 31:25
Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoin in time to come.
I have had lots of people tell me along the way that
I don't wear some of those hats correctly, appropriately,
efficiently enough, etc, etc -
You get the picture....
But who decides all of that??
Why do 'they' get to decide all of that??
Again, I am not looking for perfection, but I would like to hear
at the end of the day:
"... let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us." Heb 12:1
"Well done my good and faithful servant" Mat 25:21
That's the justification for my faults which are many...
I have a brother that is 17 months younger than me.
While we were growing up we were pretty close...we were practically
twins due to our age.
I remember numerous people telling us how much
we looked alike.
Awe...right??
How endearing -- NOT!!
Especially when you get to be about 12 or 13 and wanting desperately to look
and sound like a girl...right??
So, I decided well before my eclectic style of fashion
began that I would NEVER wear a hat
so that I would avoid looking more like my brother - the boy!
Now don't get me wrong...I have a very nice looking brother,
but.... I wanted to be a girl!!
But the hats that I have been given in life aren't necessarily
a fashion no-no, but rather an enhancement to the ensemble.
And they don't always fit - correctly!!
So what's a girl to do??
Make it work - be adjustable,
or throw out the hat - and call it quits??
So my personality won't allow anything that has life still
in it to be thrown away...and that includes 'life hats'.
When a hat needs justification to fit the ensemble...
God has been faithful to instruct how to 'bedazzle' it
to fit the plan he had for the said accessory.
(yes, I am completely outside my comfort zone using fashion words-
definitely not my forte)
All things work together for them that love God, and are called according to HIS purpose.
Rom 8:28
HOWEVER, when you wear a hat that is not yours or does not fit...
(and I am not talking about physically fitting-not fitting your role)
who are you taking the blessing from ??
I think about all the hats that I wear in a day's time that
I PUT ON MYSELF...
Who am I stealing the blessing of that hat from:
My husband?
My husband?
My children?
My neighbor?
My neighbor?
Well....you get the picture.
Some of you have heard of the TV reality show called,
"What Not to Wear"... Right??
I have seen the above mentioned show maybe once or twice...
I turned it off or asked for it to be changed after a few minutes
of watching two people deciding that the ''skin" (comfort zone)
of one person does not fit their 'ideological' version of fashion.
I JUST WANTED TO HURL!!
Now, I am not saying that some, and yes I am including myself in this equation,
don't have a need for fashion police on occasion,
BUT... Can't we gently, without throwing rocks at
each other, do that???
Can't we catch more flies with honey vs vinegar (Ps 15:1)??
I am a very passionate person...
*chuckling*
Most of you are gasping in surprise--I know....
I don't offend easily (you all can thank my sisters for that)...
BUT...
don't stop learning how to be someone who wears
every hat given to them to be presented before our KING.
Pro 1:7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge;
fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Let grandma be grandma her way.
Let your mom be elderly her way.
Let your sister be a wife/mom her way.
Let your daughter be a woman of God her way.
Let your girlfriend be a friend her way.
Last night as I was processing my day,
here's what I went to bed processing...
I have been a part of a conversation with folks who
take the job of wife/mom
as 'just part of their lives' instead of
the GREATEST role we could be given!!!
I also thought about a conversation that I had with a friend
that felt it necessary to decide whether another
was justified in their response to a life altering day...
Please be careful deciding if someone is wearing the
hat their given with dignity, pride, ignorance, or naiveté....
